Lately I have focused on how salon owners can be there for our employees and now it is time to focus on how we can be there for ourselves.

I am talking mostly about my own life experience today and the valuable lessons I continue to learn about being a leader. When we lead a company, those who look to us for guidance get the clearest message by watching how we handle situations. It’s almost like they hold their breath in the middle of chaos to “see” what we will do. How will we react, how will we choose to deal with it.

What we don’t always realize is what is really happening is that we are setting the bar for others to follow. Every choice we make as the leaders is the expectation we have of others. Now this is not meant to scare you, just be aware.

So how do we handle ourselves in chaos? Well sometimes I rant and rave and lose every grip of diplomatic behavior, which then causes me the humbling task of making amends. And sometimes I actually use the tools I learn and practice disciplining my mind long enough to make wise choices that preserve my self respect and of those around me.

How do we do this? Everyone comes about it in their own way but I am a strong believer in having mentors as part of your circle of influence and incorporate daily practices and disciplines to remain focused. However it works for you, the point I am trying to make is that the investment in your own personal development is key when leading others.

I can tell you that on the days when I can get the squirrels in my head to settle down and allow myself a moment of peace and clarity, chaos is much more manageable, on the days I forget…well, let’s just say the forgiving oneself is another thing I continue to work on.